Monday, October 13, 2008


After California’s Supreme Court decided this spring that our constitution conferred the right to marry to all couples, Ellen DeGeneres and Portia di Rossi were one of thousands of same-sex couples to tie the knot. Both Ellen and Portia’s bridal wear was done by celeb designer, Zac Posen. Portia was stunning in her a la Monroe/Swan Lake confection of white and peachy-pink tulle; Ellen (hard to believe she’s 50!) looked terrific in her dress whites. Looking at these gorgeous wedding photos by Lara Porzak, you realize how joyous each bride is in the reflection of the other. Luckily ‘two bride’ ceremonies like this can be shared with the world now instead of secreted behind closed doors.
Despite the run of same-sex celebrations spring and summer all over California, we’ve hardly blinked and there’s already an initiative on the November 2008 ballot to overturn this long awaited decision. If Prop 8 does pass this fall, it means all the legal rights of marriage will be denied once again to same sex couples. (This won’t effect those already married). Among the many unfair results would be: When/if one partner is hospitalized, dies or wants to share a decent health plan —the other half is just another lone soul out there fending on his/her own.

Stand up for the legal rights of marriage for all couples and the rejection of California’s Prop 8. If you’re a Californian listen up and realize we have twenty-two days to get the word out on this. Other than voting NO on Prop 8 what else can you do? Plenty. To get started:
1.) Go to the Vote NO on Prop 8 site and sign the petition.
2.) Donate
3.) Go to Prop 8 site's phone bank page and schedule a time to make calls.
4.) Host a house party
5.) Create your own fundraising page
5.) Volunteer to register others to vote.

If you’re not a Californian, please talk and write about this subject to others in California who can vote (especially if you are a blogger).

If you’re part of a 'two bride' couple planning a post fall wedding, vote, keep faith and enjoy these planning sites

By the way, I can’t take credit for thinking up this catchy Her’s N’ Her’s title; it’s part of an email address my niece and her newlywed wife thought up as far back as email was invented.


Anonymous said...

Thanks for writing about this issue. I have friends who are a same-sex couple with an April 2009wedding date. Whatever happens with Prop 8 they are planning to go through with it and have the biggest bash of their lives

Anonymous said...

Hard to believe till 2008 Ellen Degeneres couldn't get legally married but Manson murderer Susan Denise Adkins could while she was on death row. Go figure

Anonymous said...

A great post on an important issue- and one with great fashion too! Ellen and Portia really did look radiantly happy as every newly married couple deserves to be.

Double Blink said...

Defining marriage as between one man and one woman is not taking away anyone's rights. The definition simply distinguishes a union which is biologically designed to produce its own children. Whether a married couple has children or not, I feel like this deserves a separate name--even the potential is kind of a miracle.

Actually this definition can be seen as the ultimate expression of equality our society has to offer: it takes one man and one woman. One could see a lesbian union as a marginalization of men, or a homosexual union as a marginalization of women.

Equality is especially important when it comes to raising children. Children deserve/need a father and a mother. Neither parent should be marginalized.

Yes, many children are already growing up in single-parent homes. Prop 8 should be a reminder to everyone that as a society we need to assist and strengthen families as much as possible. Really, as a society we should be most concerned with the success and health of our families.


Anonymous said...

In response to the comment of ms. lee of the lemon drops:
It is important to sort out opinion and fact.
Your opinion is that marriage should be defined on the basis of its biological potential to produce children. You have a right to that opinion.
But the fact is that hundreds of legal rights in federal and state law are based whether couples are married. If your opinion of marriage becomes California’s legal definition, these rights would be taken away from same sex couples.

Anonymous said...

Portia's dress is incredible. Kudos to Zac Posen for his work on both E and P's outfits.